Did your kids tell you the school life? Talked incessantly, or muted whatever you “torturous” you used. So…

Don’t Ask Why?

Don’t ask why, because there are various reasons for stopping child to talk about school life, the simplest thing is mood. Please don’t ask for the reason which could twist the attention, or which could distort that “don’t speak school life” is a sin. Also, some parents will ask again and again, even suspect that reason of not talking about school life that is their child broke the rules or regulations. How an innocent child feels? When antipathy towards this topic, he will never speak the school life any more.

Be Care First Question

In effect, Child’s world is similar to adult; one of them is the communication method. When our first conversation of the dialogue is the irrelevant matter or some unpleasing content, it is undoubtedly to break the conversation. The first sentence is very important. Please don’t choose the questioned sentence, such as ask unhesitatingly, “Are you naught today?” or “Did you behave obedience?” These sorts of questions will attract resentment of children. The children will think that their parents never understand them, and it is meaningless to talk with them. Close the door. Hang up. We have to understand child will have their thinking, mind-set, emotion, self-esteem… and whatnots. Parents have to respect and understand.

Open-end question for Guiding

It is flexible to use open-end questions, and the children could talk slowly and let them to think. Mostly, the children in the kindergarten do not have very strong ability in organizing. Some of them do not know how to arrange, and cannot find the thread; thereby, open-end questions will guide them to the topic and find the starting point; however, parents please make sure you know the timetable of your child clearly before that. Otherwise, please do this “homework” first, and this could avoid to asking the wrong questions. The wrong or mismatch question will minify their motivation to talk with you.

Attitude is Decisive

Sometimes, child talks their school life but not in our content list. At this moment, parent could explore the topic but not to question them. For instance, some parents want to know more about their learning, but some are not. While the children have always talked about the tea time and playing, the learning-oriented parents will feel uncomfortable. May be they will ask the question directly, “Please tell me your learning, and don’t tell me eating and playing all the time……” We know this is not the good paradigm to ask a question, and we have to understand attitude will decide the communication efficiency.

Please don’t question or blaming on the behavioural and social problem, or arousal. Keep calm down, and understand the incident first, then, the coping method. Too exciting will stop children to talk this category on the following day.

Establish Communicating Relationship

We could do something for establishing the parent-children relationship whether your children will talk the school life or not. After the relationship has been set up, all the communication will be smoothly. Basically, bed time story or chatting is the good habits for the children to communicate with parents. Day after day, they will communicate with parents or others freely. Certainly, each child have their character, we have to tackle flexibly.